Question: Should others go up and speak to people who wear headphones?

Rocio:

We should go up to people who are wearing headphones because we should be open to opportunities for new friendships. Being social is crucial because that’s how potential friendships arise.

In today’s society, most people, including myself, are always on their phone either listening to music or watching YouTube videos. This can reflect a lack of manners especially when you’re around someone who is not wearing headphones as it may seem that you’re intentionally trying to avoid them. Two BOYCP students who I interviewed, but asked to remain anonymous for fear of being attacked, agree that we should be able to talk to people who are wearing headphones because we need to be able to be open to new opportunities. Adding to this, it is most appropriate to the situation because sometimes we neglect others when we shouldn’t. Even though some argue that going up to someone with headphones is not appropriate and should be avoided because they will get disturbed, I believe that we should take risks in life and be able to approach people with headphones on with no problems. Doing this makes people more involved.

Sometimes we may be taking the CTA and need to communicate something to someone. Some people neglect this, but I think that headphones shouldn’t stop anyone from trying to be social. Even though we all perceive things differently, I don’t think that doing this is inappropriate or rude. We need to step out of our comfort zone and try different things.

Sielina:

In my opinion, it’s a strategic plan. because I know when I wear both headphones I do not want to be bothered.  I feel that’s a sign indicating a person does not want to talk and are listening to music. They usually have a focused look about what they are doing, and are avoiding eye contact.  

There are people, such as me, who do not want to communicate and have their own things going on. Who need time alone to get work done and to get organized in terms of daily life. You get more independent as you age, especially as you become an upperclassmen.

I know that some people do like to socialize and some helpful tips would be to look for signs where people want to communicate. Some signs are if only one headphone is in, the person makes eye contact, or they smile. If you see this, then go right ahead and make a new friend. It is always beneficial to meet new people and gain their perspectives in order to get a bigger perception of the environment around you. This is an excellent idea if you are an underclassmen because you are still getting to know people, and need to get in the habit of socializing. It will surely help when you have to give presentations in class if you are social with others. It helps exercise your communication skills, you experience different speaking styles, and you extend your comfort level by having all sorts of discussions.

– Rocio Garcia and Sielina Castillo