Question: Is it acceptable to date your best friend’s ex?

Rocio:

Dating your friend’s ex-boyfriend or girlfriend can seem like a malicious act and a lot of people try avoiding this. They do not want to be put out there and called something rudely. A human is no one’s property so no one can tell a person what to do. Hypothetically speaking, your friend and her boyfriend were dating for a while. The feelings he had for her dialed down, and he broke up with her. Six months pass after the breakup and your friend is completely “over him”. He asks you to date him. Knowing this and that your friend is ok you date him. This doesn’t make you a backstabber as you are doing what you think is the best for you. Overall, I think that the drama should be saved and sometimes you should put yourself first before other people which allows you to grow as a person.

Vianey:

Dating your friend’s ex is something I believe you shouldn’t do. Going out with their ex will be a betrayal because you are very well aware of their emotions. A friendship is built on loyalty and not taking into consideration what one feels is completely selfish. Dating your friend’s ex will not only affect them, it will affect you and your relationship. Jealousy may invade your new relationship which is never a good thing. That is why I believe that, yes, you should be able to do whatever you’d like and you shouldn’t care what other people think, but know that a friendship is made up of two people who are loyal to each other. Keeping this in mind is not causing drama. Overall, dating your friend’s ex you can’t expect to keep your friendship and for everything and everyone to the same.

– Rocio Gonzalez & Vianey Rodriguez